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Talk Wordy To Me

Talk Wordy To Me

HOW OFTEN DO YOU AND YOUR SEX PARTNERS TALK ABOUT THE SEX YOU'RE HAVING? 

  • Do you talk more about Justing Bieber than about your own beaver? 
  • More about Law and Order than about the way the law regulates our bedrooms? 
  • More about whether you should get bangs, than how you are (or aren't) getting banged? 
  • More about Glee than about experiencing actual pleasure in the bedroom? 

 Allow me to digress.

This past weekend, I attended the 2012 Good Vibrations Sex Summit, among the likes of Carol Queen, trans activist Yosenio V. Lewis and the sexysmart Emily Morse. Tucked in the honeymoon (conference) suite of the Marriot Marquis, icons and iconoclasts of sex, pop culture, media, academic research and scientific inquiry got in bed together and did it. 

And by did it, I mean they came together and started ridiculously poignant conversations, that we should all be getting in on. 

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Your vagina called...

Your vagina called...

I hear about body shame, eating disorders, chronic dieting, and body dysmorphia on an almost daily basis in my psychotherapy practice. Seems like everyone with a heartbeat and a Facebook account thinks that their thighs are too big. Somehow, fitting in with our peers is predicated on fitting into our skinny jeans. This is sad and it is dangerous. The emotional byproducts of negative body image are poor self-esteem, isolation, self-neglect and a hungry loneliness that's never quite satisfied. 

If we take a page from almost any ladymag, we end up with more than just tips on how to f*ck like a vampire or undress for success. It’s an oversimplification for sure, but without proper community and self-support, internalized messages from popular culture can turn us into bullies against our own bodies. 

AND THESE DAYS, OUR VAGINAS ARE NEXT ON THE HIT LIST. 

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